how many of you have an auntie that was with the same man for 12 yrs before they got married? or your aunt and uncle met at 12yrs old and have been together ever since? or how many guys did your mom date before she married your father? if you are african-american, at least one of these scenarios is a part of your family history. this is serial monogamy at its best. and these are the examples that us black girls have followed for far too long.

when i think back to what my mother taught me about dating, my mind goes blank. my mother taught me all about being my own woman, being strong, being independent, but never what to expect from a man. unfortunately during my most formative years (6-13 yrs old), there was no man in my household. so when i started dating, i had no examples to reference, never determining if it what was right or wrong.

i was a fast ass growing up and always sought out male attention. i constantly had a new boy at school or in the neighborhood that i was enamored with. my mom would always say, "you change boys like you change your drawls." after hearing that so many times, i deduced that i was supposed to stick to one boy at a time. that did not seem so bad, but being a natural sagittarius caused me to get bored very easily (we are nomadic people). to solve that problem, i would stick with one boy at a time, but for very short periods of time. again i was hit with disapproval from my parents. my father would say, "you never give guys a chance. you should give them an opportunity to mess up before you toss them aside." so this is more advice that i took to heart and tried to integrate into my dating repertoire.

so when i went off to college, what i knew about dating was 1) that i need to stick to one guy at a time and 2) to stick with them until they mess up. thus my concept of serial monogamy was born. my first year of college, i was the sole black girl in my dorm suite. i watched my white counterparts go out every weekend and bring home a new guy each time. THOSE WHORES!!!!! actually i did not think that about them, they looked like they were having a great time. i spent my first semester pining after blue eyed Craig, who wasn't thinking about me. but i called myself being patient and taking on one guy at a time. hell i liked a lot of guys in college, but i never let it be known because i would always hear my mother's voice. so when most young girls were sowing their wild oats, i was behaving like an old maid.

i have spoken to my closest friends and they have all experienced the same phenomena. hell i saw them experience it in college. when i relocated to atlanta, i decided that i could reinvent myself. no one knew me here and i could do what i wanted. so i started dating. yes more than one guy for a short period of time dating. i don't remember all of their names or even what some of them look like, but i met guys and had great adventures with them. there was no guilty momma voice, no obligations, no long extended tolerance of bad behaviors, just fun times had by all. i even made some good friends along the way.

people ask me why black girls don't date. my answer is serial monogamy, its what we are taught to do. of course there are plenty of other aspects to the concept; socialization of african-american women, religious beliefs, the madonna-whore complex, etc. but like my cousin says, "normal is what you know." so if all the women in my family are serial monogamist, why would i be different? yes i can learn new things, but taught by who? when a female in the family decides to date, she risks being treated like a leper and gets the side eye from almost everyone.

but in 2008, i am trying to single-handedly break the cycle of serial monogamy. i have two success stories and am diligently working on a third. i encourage all single african-american women to see as many men as possible. i didn't say sleep with them all, but experience a variety of men. it helps you make the correct selection when you decide to settle down. if you need some help, advice or suggestions, hit me up. remember, i am the expert.

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11-23-08 *Due to family and work obligations, you may not see me on as much...I am working on new posts as well as fixing dead linx on the previous ones...Pages will be intergrated for conciseness and brevity...Certain entries will be reintroduced...Feel free to report any problems but be patient as well...Remember to do what you can to uplift BW girls to realize their full potential...Much love to you guys! 11-(sometime last week)-08 ATTENTION!!! CW Asks For A Favor PLEASE if at all possible, refrain from debating with factions on other sites (Topix, YouTube, BV, BP, etc)...This gets us nowhere and distracts from our purpose which is living the best life possible...Some BW are bogged down by frequently arguing with folks who are irrelevant...Do not expend ANYMORE energy into this...Cease trying to convince anyone to see the situation in a different light...Either these people (Black, White, or otherwise) get it or they DON'T!...The parties who want to keep Black women on a hamster wheel often try to taunt us into "debate" in order to preoccupy...If you're on a messageboard debating then you're not: 1. Going out and meeting people 2. Dating 3. Travelling4. Learning new things5.Connecting with a loved one6.Watching Paint Dry...Even doing that would be more productive because that means you worked on a project...Something was painted7.(Fill In The Blank) Time to move on... This forum encourages discussion, critical thinking and feedback....However I WILL NOT tolerate predator/criminal protectionism...Those who engage in this will soon find this out...I participate fully with law enforcement regarding any suspicious activity, clear??? A Message To Black Women:
This is a time where enough is enough and we must act. Despite our differences in opinion on dating and messageboard posts, there is a situation staring Black women dead in the face. Love me, hate me, cuss me out and call me names...Just demand better for Black women. Add me to your blogroll, remove me, or ban me...Just stand up for Black women. The crimes committed against us are often glossed over in favor of fighting perceived injustices against Black men who are overwhelmingly found to be the perpetrators. Rev. Al Jesse (AKA "Big Perm" "Big Illegitimate Daddy")would rather march for the BM of "Jena 6", or cry about how a BM teen received too much prison time (Google Geranalow Wilson) for indecent acts. These phony sychophants of the "Black Community Machine" will never stand up for Black women who are the constant victims of damaged Black men. Consider the numerous BW who have become victims that we can name off the top of our heads. And believe me this list isn't all inclusive...All within less than a year: Ms Esmin Green, who was left to die on a hospital floor. People from her family, church, etc came out of the woodwork only AFTER she died. IMO...True fashion of those who did not do right by her in the first place...Now these parties want to go on the news and prostrate themselves on Ms Green's coffin...Where were they while she was alive?...It was obvious she needed help...More than likely she was just another 'mule' fitting under the 'Strong Black Woman' profile...Again, not to mention Jesse or Al...WHERE WERE THEY???Sisters, we MUST reject being a burden bearer and only deal with those who reciprocate... Daniyah Jackson Nailah FranklinLatasha Norman The two mothers babies gunned down in Indianapolis Dunbar Village Alexis Goggins Stepha HenrySgt. Jan Pawel Pietrzak and his wife, Quiana Pietrzak There are no marches, committees nor protests for these atrocities committed against Black women. When will we cease giving endless support to a false community which openly (with misogynist music), or with silence, endorse cruelty against us? We cannot go on pretending the so called Black "leadership"
has our best interests at heart. The rare occasions "Black leadership" has shown their face for BW is where there is a possibility of playing the racecard. Black women must cease and desist any support of
these organizations and their figureheads...
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